Thursday, January 31, 2013

Thoughts-It's always the hater who gets hurt more

It's always the hater who gets hurt more....

I understand between the hater and the hated, it is always the hater who gets hurt more.

Every negative emotion secretes acid in your body, and acid destroys the vessel, which contains it. Negative emotions like anger, frustration and disappointment are visiting emotions. The consolation being, they rise in you when an event happens and then they die down once you are distracted into the other events. Hatred is a progressive negative emotion. It gains depth with the passage of time. The more you process your hurt the more you deepen your hatred, and as a result more acid is released in your system. It remains a lingering background. In fact, the hurt you suffered from the event is insignificant compared to how much you keep intensifying the hurt by repeatedly reprocessing what had happened or what was done to you. Hatred takes you away from your real you. You cease to feel, think and act as you. The 'hated' now becomes the hero of your mind and heart, literally remote controlling how you feel, think and act.

The irony is that the 'hated’ is oblivious to all this. Forgiveness is not liberating the other from you, but liberating yourself from the other. Nothing and nobody deserves a disturbing presence within you. Let go of the disturbance and let in peace.

When Peter went up to Jesus Christ and said, "Lord, how often must I forgive my brother if he wrongs me? As often as seven times?" Jesus answered, " Not seven, I tell you, but seventy times seven."

Men are susceptible to mistakes. The inadequacies of man are part of the design. That is how it is meant to be. Wrong being a matter of self-realization, and not all men are evolved enough to be objective in judging themselves, 'wrong' will emanate out of men. Have not you noticed it on the road, the other driver always thinks only you were wrong, and gives you a stare? No human being is perfect. Man can at best strive towards perfection, but can never be or become flawless. People do what they do because at that point of time it seems to them that it is right. 'Wrong' is seldom intentional. It is often out of ignorance. They do not know that they do not know. And, you can never make sense to a man against his Will. Whatever you may say, he will still have the last 'say' justifying his actions. That is why, more than the one who committed the wrong, the one who pointed at the wrong will always be mistaken.

When that wrong committed by the other affects you, you get hurt. Your non-acceptance of the person and the situation that is affecting you turns hurt into hatred. If you intensify your hatred and decide on an eye-for-an-eye reaction, then it becomes revenge. One negative emotion cascades into yet another negative emotion. Progressively you will press your self-destructive button. Save yourself from yourself, much more than having to save yourself from others.

Let nothing that happens outside of you cause a blemish inside of you. Buddha prophesized, "Hatred is never ended by hatred, but by love." People need your love much more when they are wrong than when they are right. Think only good even to those who have not been good to you. Live your character, no matter, what happens.

Every man will face the consequences of his own doing. You do not make yourself wrong to prove that the other is wrong. Give up your need to prove that the other is wrong.

It changes nothing about your life. Give up your need to prove that you have been victimized. It still changes nothing about your life. You have nothing to prove. Something happened to teach you something. Learn the lessons and just move on.......

Let HIM take over the game from here.

Wednesday, January 30, 2013

Humor quotes-Looks

She got her looks from her father. He's a plastic surgeon.
- Groucho Marx

Tuesday, January 29, 2013

Inspirational quotes-Two lasting bequests

There are two lasting bequests we can give our children One is roots, the other is wings.
- Hodding Carter

Monday, January 28, 2013

Thought for the day-What we want to see

We only see what we want to see, and hear what we want to hear.
- don Miguel Ruiz

Sunday, January 27, 2013

Sarcastic quotes-Donald Trump's birth certificate

''Donald Trump showed his birth certificate to reporters. Who cares about his birth certificate? I want to know if that thing on his head has had its vaccinations.''
- Craig Ferguson

Saturday, January 26, 2013

Political quotes-Copyright

''What?! The congressman had a sex scandal and had to apologize to Bill Clinton? For what?! Copyright infringement?''
- Jon Stewart , on Weinergate

Friday, January 25, 2013

Famous people quotes-Choose your family

You don't choose your family. They are God's gift to you, as you are to them.
- Desmond Tutu

Thursday, January 24, 2013

Philosophical quotes-Limits of the possible

The only way to discover the limits of the possible is to go beyond them into the impossible.
- Arthur C. Clarke

Wednesday, January 23, 2013

Sarcastic quotes-Boyhood home

''The boyhood home of Bill Clinton has been designated as a National Historic Site. It's great, but I hope it stops there. Because there are a million places that can say 'Bill Clinton Slept Here.'''
-Craig Ferguson

Tuesday, January 22, 2013

Hilarious quotes-Trump for President

''If Trump does become president, I hope he puts a wig on his plane and calls it Hair Force One.''
- Jimmy Kimmel

Monday, January 21, 2013

Deep thoughts-Without wanting

You can't get unless you give. And you have to give without wanting to get.
- Theodore H. White

Sunday, January 20, 2013

Famous people quotes-Louder

Action speaks louder than words but not nearly as often.
- Mark Twain

Saturday, January 19, 2013

Sarcastic quotes-Fine line

There's a fine line between fishing and just standing on the shore like an idiot.
- Steven Wright

Friday, January 18, 2013

Short quotes-Be sincere

Be sincere;
Be brief;
Be seated.
- Franklin Delano Roosevelt

Thursday, January 17, 2013

Famous people quotes-Truthfulness

Two things are owed to truthfulness - lasting marriages and short friendships.
- Robert Brault

Wednesday, January 16, 2013

Proverbs-Soft words

Use soft words and hard arguments.
- English Proverb

Tuesday, January 15, 2013

Humor quotes-More rocks

"In the Middle East, peace is what happens when you're looking for more rocks."
- Scott E. Roeben

Monday, January 14, 2013

Sarcastic quotes-Unidentified source

Nobody believes the official spokesman...but everybody trusts an unidentified source.
- Ron Nesen

Sunday, January 13, 2013

Proverbs-Dig a hole

If you dig a hole for someone else, you'll fall into it.
Hungarian proverb

Saturday, January 12, 2013

Motivational thoughts-Being polite

We all believe in the philosophy that the essence of life is talking. Communicating with others is as necessary as food. If we don't, we tend to fall ill. Today people are rarely talking.

The art of conversation has almost died down. People just usually sit and chat in their office breaks about things that are not even worth thinking about. Lets face it; we all are going towards doom where each one of us is talking to pass/kill time. The art of using communication is no more existing. People are concerned about others influence in their lives and not about their influence in others life.

It is an unbelievable thing that an effective communication through polite words can have wonderful impact on you and others lives as well. You can win the hearts of many people, climb the corporate ladder, have promotions but not have wonderful relationship with people around you.

The path to a successful life comes thorough the stairs of politeness. An act of politeness can do wonders that no monetary thing can do. Let us go deep in the art of efficient speaking by these methods.

Talking about ideas and not people

Its truly said, great minds talk about ideas and small minds talk about people. Politeness is an attitude of life. Talking about ideas heightens your politeness towards innovations and stimulates your mind too. This is effective for the speaker and the listener both. To start talking about people you can breathe out all negative energies about anyone: latest crush, which dress she wears, which perfume she uses, her bad attitude. The idea is that everything you talk about people usually comes negative. This develops a feeling of self love and comparison at all means. You do not value your life as much as you do to others.

Using intellect instead of the tongue

Usually people chatter on at length not worrying about the impact it would have on others. Since people are so occupied in themselves they'd rather talk about themselves only. This instigates them to speak rubbish endlessly. Have you ever thought how much of an impact we can have on others by our words? By trying to use our brains before speaking, we will save others sentiments and preserve a healthy relationship between our near ones.

Avoid gossip

The one who usually starts a gossip or backbiting about someone does not know that he is the one to have the last laugh. People who start commenting and spreading rumors about others usually end up in a muck of politics and bickering about themselves from the other end. Such people should be avoided at arm's length. Even listening to gossip is as harmful since the listener had the power to listen to negative communication. This unhealthy gossiping could have been stopped if the listener would have ignored the speaker.

Exchange of compliments

We should not limit our compliment intake be restricted to our close relatives. People like our helpers such as servants, cleaners, house maids are those on whom we can count on. Speaking politely to them will ensure that your day is made. They are the ones who offer your services to make your life comfortable. So we should make endeavors to enrich their lives by complimenting and praising them.

Look for positive things in negative people

We all have negative and positive sides. Nobody on this earth has a squeaky clean nature. We all have flaws, however some people are observed negatively by their rude behavior and we become very judgmental about them putting them in the negative category. We should understand that people who are rude have their own weaknesses. They do not choose to be like that. Frustrations at work or domestic front make them act in this behavior. Such people should be offered more help than others comparatively. Talking politely with them will make a difference in their lives and yours too.

Feel positive about you all the time

Quite often we do not realize that we subconsciously become negative. Pent up emotions and unfulfilled desires make us behave rudely towards others and emit negative radiations from the body. Thus we tend to overreact and become rude and harsh to others in some or the other way. This might demolish the social circle that we have. So politeness in the hearts at all means will result in polite attitude.

Whatever is rested in your heart is bound to come out in the open some or the other day. Make sure you have a prosperous life with a polite attitude and selfless love. This will make you immortal in the hearts of millions as people are going to remember for your polite words and not by your status.

A photographer once clicked a photograph of ex-president of India, Dr. Kalam with a shawl placed on his shoulder. After the photo shoot was over, the photographer rudely took off the shawl and walked off. The President smiled. After being asked about his composed behavior, he politely answered that maybe the photographer needed the shawl more than he did, and continued his work.

People with big positions come and go but it is only their humble nature that draws millions of people towards them. Their polite words filled to the brim with modesty and love melt the hearts of even the rudest amongst the crowd. By talking politely to all we can make an impact on others lives.

Friday, January 11, 2013

Sarcastic quotes-Annual physical

President Obama has completed his annual physical, and he is in tip top shape. but it doesn't look like his insurance company is going to pay for it.
-Jay Leno

Thursday, January 10, 2013

Hilarious quotes-Pessimists

"Studies have discovered most pessimists have the same blood type. B-negative."
- Scott E. Roeben

Tuesday, January 8, 2013

Inspirational quotes-Mobilize

The fastest way to change society is to mobilize the women of the world.
- Charles Malik

Sarcastic quotes-Match the men

I'm not denying the women are foolish. God Almighty made 'em to match the men.
- George Eliot

Monday, January 7, 2013

Famous people quotes-Heaven hath no rage

Heaven hath no rage like a love to hatred turned, nor hell a fury like a woman scorned.
- William Congreve, English Playwright

Quotes on love-Not a part

You know you love someone when you know you want them to be happy, even if their happiness means that you are not a part of it.

Sunday, January 6, 2013

Deep thoughts-Unspeakable love

There is a sacredness in tears.
They are not the mark of weakness, but of power.
They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues.
They are messengers of overwhelming grief ...
and unspeakable love.
- Washington Irving

Marriage quotes-After the chills

After the chills and fever of love, how nice is the 98.6ยบ of marriage!
- Mignon McLaughlin, The Neurotic's Notebook, 1960

Saturday, January 5, 2013

Thought for the day-In moderation

An overfull calendar, like an overfull stomach, is a consequence of taking on too much.
Commit, and eat, in moderation.

Famous people quotes-Looking glasses

Women have served all these centuries as looking glasses possessing the magic and delicious power of reflecting the figure of a man at twice its natural size.
- Virginia Woolf

Friday, January 4, 2013

Philosophical quotes-Your thoughts

You are today where your thoughts have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you.
- James Allen

Motivational thoughts-Wisdom of compromise

Learn the wisdom of compromise, for it is better to bend a little than to break.

Thursday, January 3, 2013

Thought for the day-The right thing

The truth of the matter is that you always know the right thing to do. The hard part is doing it.
- Gen. Norman Schwarzkoff

Humor quotes-Allergic

"Life is strange. Come to find out, the only thing I'm allergic to is allergy medicine."
- Scott E. Roeben

Wednesday, January 2, 2013

Famous people quotes-Interrupt

Never interrupt your enemy when he is making a mistake.
- Napoleon Bonaparte

Thought for the day-Planning

Failing to plan is planning to fail.

Tuesday, January 1, 2013

Inspirational quotes-Quiet voice

Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying,
"I will try again tomorrow."
- Mary Anne Radmacher

Marriage quotes-Orangutan

The majority of husbands remind me of an orangutan trying to play the violin.
- Honore de Balzac, The Physiology of Marriage