Wednesday, March 31, 2010
Love quotes-Demontrated
Love talked about is easily turned aside,
But love demonstrated is irresistible.
(Stan Mooneyham.)
But love demonstrated is irresistible.
(Stan Mooneyham.)
Tuesday, March 30, 2010
Monday, March 29, 2010
Famous quotes-Believe
Americans... still believe in an America where anything's possible - they just don't think their leaders do.
- Barack Obama
- Barack Obama
Sunday, March 28, 2010
Thoughts-The fences are all in your mind
The fences are all in your mind
An excerpt from Living a Five Star Life
by Betty Mahalik
I've watched the movie Chicken Run at least a half-dozen times. Just beneath the surface of its simplistic look and story line lie a number of wonderful messages told through the eyes of a bunch of Claymation chickens trying to break out of their chicken-wire world to escape their fate at the chopping block. Their freedom leader, a feisty little hen named Ginger, comments profoundly in one scene: "the fences are all in your mind." She reminds her fellow chickens (and us), that a bigger obstacle than the physical fences they're surrounded by are the mental fences that hold them captive.
It’s been a good reminder for me on those occasions when I’ve been dealing my own mental fences...those created by self-doubt, uncertainty, fear. Can you relate? Where have you fenced yourself in mentally in recent days or weeks? Perhaps your mental fence is procrastination, a deadening habit that keeps you stuck. Maybe yours, like mine, is related to self-doubt, and the on-going internal noise it produces that keeps you immobilized. Perhaps yours is the belief that you don't deserve success, so you sabotage yourself to avoid having to find out how successful you could be. There are a million variations of the theme, but the result is still the same: we stay stuck like the chickens in the movie.
One of the key questions in the Best Year Yet® program is: "How do I limit myself and how can I stop?" Those limitations are never external. They always live inside us. The antidote to being trapped by our mental fences is to create a compelling enough vision that, like Ginger and her flock of chicken friends, we're willing to resort to amazing measures to break out.
The formula:
VISION + CONSISTENT ACTION = FREEDOM!
I challenge you to take some bold, even outrageous steps to break free of your mental fences. If it's procrastination, declare a "freedom day" and take action on everything you've been putting off: from cleaning your office to making phone calls or responding to emails you've avoided.
If it's self-doubt, sit down and write out everything you value and why it's important. Then challenge yourself to eliminate anything that doesn't absolutely reflect your values, or add something that is a profound statement of who you are.
FREEDOM IS JUST THE OTHER SIDE OF ACTION.
Recognize that your mental fences can only keep you stuck as long as you're looking at them. They can only contain you as long as you're not taking actions consistent with your vision. Go ahead, take the action you've avoided and leap into a future filled with possibilities. And remember, the fences are all in your mind!
An excerpt from Living a Five Star Life
by Betty Mahalik
I've watched the movie Chicken Run at least a half-dozen times. Just beneath the surface of its simplistic look and story line lie a number of wonderful messages told through the eyes of a bunch of Claymation chickens trying to break out of their chicken-wire world to escape their fate at the chopping block. Their freedom leader, a feisty little hen named Ginger, comments profoundly in one scene: "the fences are all in your mind." She reminds her fellow chickens (and us), that a bigger obstacle than the physical fences they're surrounded by are the mental fences that hold them captive.
It’s been a good reminder for me on those occasions when I’ve been dealing my own mental fences...those created by self-doubt, uncertainty, fear. Can you relate? Where have you fenced yourself in mentally in recent days or weeks? Perhaps your mental fence is procrastination, a deadening habit that keeps you stuck. Maybe yours, like mine, is related to self-doubt, and the on-going internal noise it produces that keeps you immobilized. Perhaps yours is the belief that you don't deserve success, so you sabotage yourself to avoid having to find out how successful you could be. There are a million variations of the theme, but the result is still the same: we stay stuck like the chickens in the movie.
One of the key questions in the Best Year Yet® program is: "How do I limit myself and how can I stop?" Those limitations are never external. They always live inside us. The antidote to being trapped by our mental fences is to create a compelling enough vision that, like Ginger and her flock of chicken friends, we're willing to resort to amazing measures to break out.
The formula:
VISION + CONSISTENT ACTION = FREEDOM!
I challenge you to take some bold, even outrageous steps to break free of your mental fences. If it's procrastination, declare a "freedom day" and take action on everything you've been putting off: from cleaning your office to making phone calls or responding to emails you've avoided.
If it's self-doubt, sit down and write out everything you value and why it's important. Then challenge yourself to eliminate anything that doesn't absolutely reflect your values, or add something that is a profound statement of who you are.
FREEDOM IS JUST THE OTHER SIDE OF ACTION.
Recognize that your mental fences can only keep you stuck as long as you're looking at them. They can only contain you as long as you're not taking actions consistent with your vision. Go ahead, take the action you've avoided and leap into a future filled with possibilities. And remember, the fences are all in your mind!
Saturday, March 27, 2010
Friday, March 26, 2010
Thursday, March 25, 2010
Love quotes-Soul mates
Soul-mates are people who bring out the best in you. They are not perfect but are always perfect for you.
~Author Unknown
~Author Unknown
Sarcastic quotes-Mountain out of a molehill
It isn't difficult to make a mountain out of a molehill...just add a little dirt.
Wednesday, March 24, 2010
Motivational thoughts-Sticks out
You'll notice that a turtle only makes progress when it sticks out its neck.
Tuesday, March 23, 2010
Thought for the day-Prisoner
To forgive is to set the prisoner free, and then discover the prisoner was you.
Meaningful quotes-Successful marriage
A successful marriage isn't finding the right person - it's being the right person.
Monday, March 22, 2010
Political quotes-Up for Sale
When one may pay out over two million dollars to presidential and Congressional campaigns, the U.S. government is virtually up for sale.
~John Gardner
~John Gardner
Famous quotes-Own Resolution
Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other.
- Abraham Lincoln
- Abraham Lincoln
Sunday, March 21, 2010
Thoughts-Priorities
This is truly brilliant....It can't get more accurate than this!
Sigmund Freud's priorities test.
Five things are happening in your house at the same time. In which sequence would you solve them?
1. The telephone is ringing!
2. The baby is crying!
3. Someone's knocking or calling you from the front door!
4. You hung the clothes out to dry and it is beginning to rain!
5. You left the tap on in the kitchen and the water is already overflowing!
In which sequence would you solve these problems? Write the sequence and do check below how your decisions were made. BUT BE HONEST, THE FINDINGS ARE EXCITING. First write YOUR sequence from 1 to 5 then scroll below and read after!
Answer:
Every individual point represents something in your life. On the list you can see which meaning every point has:
1. Telephone represents =Work*
2. Baby represents =Family*
3. Door represents =Friends*
4. Clothes represent =Money*
5. Tap represents =Love life*
- Your chosen sequence determines the priorities in your life.
Sigmund Freud's priorities test.
Five things are happening in your house at the same time. In which sequence would you solve them?
1. The telephone is ringing!
2. The baby is crying!
3. Someone's knocking or calling you from the front door!
4. You hung the clothes out to dry and it is beginning to rain!
5. You left the tap on in the kitchen and the water is already overflowing!
In which sequence would you solve these problems? Write the sequence and do check below how your decisions were made. BUT BE HONEST, THE FINDINGS ARE EXCITING. First write YOUR sequence from 1 to 5 then scroll below and read after!
Answer:
Every individual point represents something in your life. On the list you can see which meaning every point has:
1. Telephone represents =Work*
2. Baby represents =Family*
3. Door represents =Friends*
4. Clothes represent =Money*
5. Tap represents =Love life*
- Your chosen sequence determines the priorities in your life.
Saturday, March 20, 2010
Inspirational thoughts and quotes-Hustle
Things may come to those who wait but only the things left by those who hustle.
- Abraham Lincoln, 1809-1865, 16th President of the United States
- Abraham Lincoln, 1809-1865, 16th President of the United States
Sexual quotes-Auctioning
A 22-year-old woman auctioning off her virginity at a legal brothel in Nevada said some people are offering more than $3.8 million. The only person I know that can make so much with no experience is Caroline Kennedy.
(Pedro Bartes)
(Pedro Bartes)
Friday, March 19, 2010
Funny thoughts-Grass is greener
If the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, you can bet the water bill is higher.
Thursday, March 18, 2010
Political quotes-Two faces
The reason there are so few female politicians is that it is too much trouble to put makeup on two faces.
~Maureen Murphy
~Maureen Murphy
Wednesday, March 17, 2010
Tuesday, March 16, 2010
Monday, March 15, 2010
Love quotes-Confusing
"Love is so confusing - you tell a girl she looks great and what's the first thing you do? Turn out the lights!"
Sunday, March 14, 2010
Thoughts -Good news or bad news
Robert De Vincenzo, the great Argentine golfer, once won a tournament and, after receiving the check and smiling for the cameras, he went to the clubhouse and prepared to leave.
Some time later, he walked alone to his car in the parking lot and was approached by a young woman. She congratulated him on his victory and then told him that her child was seriously ill and near death. She did not know how she could pay the doctor's bills and hospital expenses.
De Vincenzo was touched by her story, and he took out a pen and endorsed his winning check for payment to the woman. "Make some good days for the baby," he said, as he pressed the check into her hand.
AP Photo/Eddie Kolenovsky
Some time later, he walked alone to his car in the parking lot and was approached by a young woman. She congratulated him on his victory and then told him that her child was seriously ill and near death. She did not know how she could pay the doctor's bills and hospital expenses.
De Vincenzo was touched by her story, and he took out a pen and endorsed his winning check for payment to the woman. "Make some good days for the baby," he said, as he pressed the check into her hand.
AP Photo/Eddie KolenovskyThe next week he was having lunch in a country club when a Professional Golf Association official came to his table. "Some of the boys in the parking lot last week told me you met a young woman there after you won that tournament." De Vincenzo nodded. "Well," said the official, "I have news for you. She's a phony. She has no sick baby. She's not even married. She fleeced you, my friend."
"You mean there is no baby who is dying?" said De Vincenzo.
"That's right," said the official.
"That's the best good news I've heard all week." De Vincenzo said.
Good news or bad news? It depends on how you see things. You can be bitter after cheated. Or you can choose to move on with your life.
"You mean there is no baby who is dying?" said De Vincenzo.
"That's right," said the official.
"That's the best good news I've heard all week." De Vincenzo said.
Good news or bad news? It depends on how you see things. You can be bitter after cheated. Or you can choose to move on with your life.
Saturday, March 13, 2010
Friday, March 12, 2010
Deep thoughts-Mother is born
The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new.
- Rajneesh
- Rajneesh
Thursday, March 11, 2010
Friendship quotes-Walk
Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow.
Don't walk behind me, I may not lead.
Just walk beside me and be my friend.
- Albert Camus
Don't walk behind me, I may not lead.
Just walk beside me and be my friend.
- Albert Camus
Wednesday, March 10, 2010
Meaningful quotes-Despicable
Nothing is more despicable than respect based on fear.
- Albert Camus, 1913-1960, French Author and Philosopher
- Albert Camus, 1913-1960, French Author and Philosopher
Sexual quotes-Sport
"Hockey is a sport for white men. Basketball is a sport for black men. Golf is a sport for white men dressed like black pimps."
- Tiger Woods
- Tiger Woods
Tuesday, March 9, 2010
Humor quotes by George Carlin
"I was thinking about how people seem to read the Bible a whole lot more as they get older; then it dawned on me - they're cramming for their final exam."
- George Carlin
- George Carlin
Monday, March 8, 2010
Love quotes-Desirable malfunction
Love - a wildly misunderstood although highly desirable malfunction of the heart which weakens the brain, causes eyes to sparkle, cheeks to glow, blood pressure to rise and the lips to pucker.
~Author Unknown
~Author Unknown
Sunday, March 7, 2010
Thoughts-Be Who You Want to Become
I have no idea if this story is true or false, parable or memoir – but it has stuck with me ever since I read it years ago.
There was once a great author, who had written books adored by millions. One day, a passionate young man accosted the author, begging for advice.
“Please,” said the young man. “Teach me how to become a great writer like you.”
The great author took the young man aside, saying, “I can teach you to write, but I cannot teach you to become a writer. When you wake up in the morning, and immediately can think of nothing but writing – then you are a writer.”
That young man could have been me. In some ways, he could be any of us. Like him, so many of us are lost in our dreams and ambitions, searching for someone to lead us from here to there, from who we are to who we want to be. And for many of us – myself included – we read this story and are driven into passivity by it.
We hear: “When you wake up in the morning, and immediately can think of nothing but writing – then you are a writer,” and immediately go home, climb into bed, and wake up the next morning hoping that our first thoughts are of words and paper. Instead, our first thoughts are of coffee, or of work, or of our kids, or any of a thousand responsibilities. So we wait … and wait … wishing for that magical day when we will wake up inspired, transformed into the person we’ve always dreamed of being.
But, of course, that day never comes.
What a pity that such a great story leaves us so helpless. And instead of waiting for our dreams to find us, isn’t it better to live the dream right now? For example: instead of dreaming about waking up with a writer’s mindset, why not make a conscious choice each morning to think about writing? It sounds obvious, I know. But the simple things are the hardest to grasp sometimes.
I realized this recently; a simple truth that has changed how I think about myself and what I do every day; a simple truth that has become the first and greatest of my personal commandments:
Be who you want to become.
“What do you want to be when you grow up?”
As children, we’re constantly asked what we want to be when we grow up. A pilot. A rock star. The president of the world.
And these are all great ambitions, but they’re all part of the far, far future. So even at a young age, we’re trained to think in somedays.
The problem is, when all we talk about is what we’re going to be once we’ve grown up, we tend to forget about the actual growing up part – the part that actually gets us from point A to point B. We have trouble seeing what’s right in front of our noses. Now. The present. Who we are today, and what we can do now, instead of what we maybe could do one of these days.
And what I’m realizing more and more is that what we do now, what you and I do today, what takes up our time on a daily basis, decides what we get to do on a lifetime basis.
A Person, Not A Characteristic
One of the biggest mistakes I’ve made in goal-setting is being one-dimensional. I’ll say to myself: “I’m going to write a novel.” Or: “I’m going to be more organized.” I’ll even come up with specific action steps to help me stay on track.
But what always gets me isn’t a flaw in my 10-step plan for success. It’s all the other stuff that isn’t in the plan. The lunch breaks. The sudden boredom. The TV playing in the background. The emails. All the little things that fill up my day. These are the things that always pull me off track.
And I think I know why. I’ve been pursuing my goals as if they were objects floating in a vacuum, when I should be treating them as part of a hugely complex thing we call a lifestyle.
I’ve been overlooking the fact that 90% of the stuff that I do every day won’t be strictly related to a particular goal. And that’s okay. Because that’s how life works. That’s how people work – though we may not always see it that way.
We look at an Olympic athlete, for example, and all we see are the races. Maybe we even see a little bit of the training. But what we almost never see are the sleepless nights, the driving to and from practice, the singing in the shower, the little breaks, the personal struggles, and all the small things under the surface. The Olympic athlete is only part of who that person is. A big part, yes. The whole thing? Not a chance.
We chase our dreams as if we were in a movie montage, with all the irrelevant, boring parts cut out. It doesn’t work that way. Between learning to wax on and wax off, the Karate Kid probably had to go home, study for tests, apply for college, and other things that had nothing to do with martial arts.
What I’m saying here is that, instead of aiming to write a novel (or become more organized or get a better job), we should aim to be a person for whom writing a novel is possible. Because we, as people, are not wrapped up in one goal at a time; we are the sum of hundreds, thousands of goals.
To really get somewhere, I think, we need to develop a full, three-dimensional picture of the person we want to become, and then pursue all aspects of that person in our daily lives.
Present responsibility
We look to the future for many things. Inspiration. Hope. Ambition. And sometimes – or often, even – for excuses. The future, if you think about it, is the biggest source of procrastination. Ever.
Part of being who you want to become is killing off those excuses for procrastination. The constant call to action. There’s a great temptation, I think, to put up a mental barrier between now and someday. We’re going to be better people “someday,” and we think that somehow absolves us of responsibility for the mistakes we’re making today. We’ve got to stop doing that.
The solution, for me, is mindfulness. Being keenly, constantly aware not just of what I’m doing, but why I’m doing it.
What I want to express here is my newfound sense of urgency. I’ve come to understand that my future self – the self that’s successful and happy and incredibly productive – that self doesn’t exist. What I have is me, right now. That’s what I have to work with. That’s all any of us have to work with. And it’s the progress we make every single day, it’s who we choose to be every day, that determines whether we’ll reach our goals sooner, later, or not at all.
It’s a lot to live up to every day. But so worth it.
There was once a great author, who had written books adored by millions. One day, a passionate young man accosted the author, begging for advice.
“Please,” said the young man. “Teach me how to become a great writer like you.”
The great author took the young man aside, saying, “I can teach you to write, but I cannot teach you to become a writer. When you wake up in the morning, and immediately can think of nothing but writing – then you are a writer.”
That young man could have been me. In some ways, he could be any of us. Like him, so many of us are lost in our dreams and ambitions, searching for someone to lead us from here to there, from who we are to who we want to be. And for many of us – myself included – we read this story and are driven into passivity by it.
We hear: “When you wake up in the morning, and immediately can think of nothing but writing – then you are a writer,” and immediately go home, climb into bed, and wake up the next morning hoping that our first thoughts are of words and paper. Instead, our first thoughts are of coffee, or of work, or of our kids, or any of a thousand responsibilities. So we wait … and wait … wishing for that magical day when we will wake up inspired, transformed into the person we’ve always dreamed of being.
But, of course, that day never comes.
What a pity that such a great story leaves us so helpless. And instead of waiting for our dreams to find us, isn’t it better to live the dream right now? For example: instead of dreaming about waking up with a writer’s mindset, why not make a conscious choice each morning to think about writing? It sounds obvious, I know. But the simple things are the hardest to grasp sometimes.
I realized this recently; a simple truth that has changed how I think about myself and what I do every day; a simple truth that has become the first and greatest of my personal commandments:
Be who you want to become.
“What do you want to be when you grow up?”
As children, we’re constantly asked what we want to be when we grow up. A pilot. A rock star. The president of the world.
And these are all great ambitions, but they’re all part of the far, far future. So even at a young age, we’re trained to think in somedays.
The problem is, when all we talk about is what we’re going to be once we’ve grown up, we tend to forget about the actual growing up part – the part that actually gets us from point A to point B. We have trouble seeing what’s right in front of our noses. Now. The present. Who we are today, and what we can do now, instead of what we maybe could do one of these days.
And what I’m realizing more and more is that what we do now, what you and I do today, what takes up our time on a daily basis, decides what we get to do on a lifetime basis.
A Person, Not A Characteristic
One of the biggest mistakes I’ve made in goal-setting is being one-dimensional. I’ll say to myself: “I’m going to write a novel.” Or: “I’m going to be more organized.” I’ll even come up with specific action steps to help me stay on track.
But what always gets me isn’t a flaw in my 10-step plan for success. It’s all the other stuff that isn’t in the plan. The lunch breaks. The sudden boredom. The TV playing in the background. The emails. All the little things that fill up my day. These are the things that always pull me off track.
And I think I know why. I’ve been pursuing my goals as if they were objects floating in a vacuum, when I should be treating them as part of a hugely complex thing we call a lifestyle.
I’ve been overlooking the fact that 90% of the stuff that I do every day won’t be strictly related to a particular goal. And that’s okay. Because that’s how life works. That’s how people work – though we may not always see it that way.
We look at an Olympic athlete, for example, and all we see are the races. Maybe we even see a little bit of the training. But what we almost never see are the sleepless nights, the driving to and from practice, the singing in the shower, the little breaks, the personal struggles, and all the small things under the surface. The Olympic athlete is only part of who that person is. A big part, yes. The whole thing? Not a chance.
We chase our dreams as if we were in a movie montage, with all the irrelevant, boring parts cut out. It doesn’t work that way. Between learning to wax on and wax off, the Karate Kid probably had to go home, study for tests, apply for college, and other things that had nothing to do with martial arts.
What I’m saying here is that, instead of aiming to write a novel (or become more organized or get a better job), we should aim to be a person for whom writing a novel is possible. Because we, as people, are not wrapped up in one goal at a time; we are the sum of hundreds, thousands of goals.
To really get somewhere, I think, we need to develop a full, three-dimensional picture of the person we want to become, and then pursue all aspects of that person in our daily lives.
Present responsibility
We look to the future for many things. Inspiration. Hope. Ambition. And sometimes – or often, even – for excuses. The future, if you think about it, is the biggest source of procrastination. Ever.
Part of being who you want to become is killing off those excuses for procrastination. The constant call to action. There’s a great temptation, I think, to put up a mental barrier between now and someday. We’re going to be better people “someday,” and we think that somehow absolves us of responsibility for the mistakes we’re making today. We’ve got to stop doing that.
The solution, for me, is mindfulness. Being keenly, constantly aware not just of what I’m doing, but why I’m doing it.
What I want to express here is my newfound sense of urgency. I’ve come to understand that my future self – the self that’s successful and happy and incredibly productive – that self doesn’t exist. What I have is me, right now. That’s what I have to work with. That’s all any of us have to work with. And it’s the progress we make every single day, it’s who we choose to be every day, that determines whether we’ll reach our goals sooner, later, or not at all.
It’s a lot to live up to every day. But so worth it.
Saturday, March 6, 2010
Funny thoughts-How little
Save a little money each month and at the end of the year, you will be surprised at how little you have.
Friday, March 5, 2010
Sarcastic quotes-A couple of words
I've been asked to say a couple of words about my husband, Fang. How about 'short' and 'cheap'?
- Phyllis Diller
- Phyllis Diller
Thursday, March 4, 2010
Friendship quotes-When the world walks out
A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.
- Walter Winchell, 1897-1972, American Newspaper and Radio Commentator
- Walter Winchell, 1897-1972, American Newspaper and Radio Commentator
Famous quotes-So fully
There are perhaps no days of our childhood we lived so fully as those we spent with a favorite book.
- Marcel Proust, 1871-1922, French Novelist
- Marcel Proust, 1871-1922, French Novelist
Wednesday, March 3, 2010
Humor quotes-Sharks
A rash of shark attacks on Australian beaches has swimmers nervous. Scientists say such sightings of the creatures are rare. During this time of year, they are usually back in law school.
(Alan Ray)
(Alan Ray)
Deep thoughts-Character
Ability will enable a man to get to the top, but it takes character to keep him there.
Tuesday, March 2, 2010
Thoughts on Life-Treat you
Expecting life to treat you well because you are a good person is like expecting an angry bull not to charge because you are a vegetarian.
- Shari R. Barr
- Shari R. Barr
Monday, March 1, 2010
Political quotes-Resurgent
Liberalism is, I think, resurgent. One reason is that more and more people are so painfully aware of the alternative.
~John Kenneth Galbraith, New York Times
~John Kenneth Galbraith, New York Times
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